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I do understand why this decision was taken, but I think this could become very messy without some explicit method of requesting (or rejecting) engagement. Lemmy is a very big place, and its unlikely even the most well-meaning individuals will check the sidebar for every single community they enter when they only want to contribute to a post. This is just exacerbated by the subjective, loosely defined requests for engagement as the system stands.

Even aside from outside users, I can imagine it creating issues when moderation is enforced. We've already had enough drama around this instance regarding the way we protect our users and defend our right to exist, the best thing we can do moving forward is make such protections as clear, unambiguous, and explicit as possible. For the safety of our transfem girlies and the health of our community discussions.

I would definitely vote for a set of community agreed tags in post titles to state engagement preferences, where any post without a tag should be assumed to encourage engagement from any reader.

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I'm generally just a lot happier, like sometimes I worry if I'm worrying enough about the important things hehe~

But also my appetite just like... evaporated. Today I had a little oatmeal in the morning and a healthy sandwich at lunch, maybe I'll have a coffee later but I know I won't really want anything else. Just six weeks ago that would have left me feeling starving!

I'm hoping for a lot more changes in my face, and booba, but what transfem isn't a little booba greedy? ❤️ ❤️

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"Is she an inspiration or do you just have a crush on her?"

Me: Yes.

Amelia_ ,
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Oh gosh... I didn't see the question was for trans characters, I was thinking of lots of cis ladies!

  • Inara Serra from Firefly (since it was mentioned)
  • Margery Tyrell from Game of Thrones
  • Kristin Ortega from Altered Carbon
  • Rosa Diaz from Brooklyn Nine-Nine
  • Elliot Reid from Scrubs
  • Deanna Troi from Star Trek TNG
  • Lucy Chen from The Rookie

I don't have a problem I swear ;_;

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I made the mistake of visiting the transfem fashion subreddit, and saw page after page super cute girls in pretty dresses, with flat tummies, and perfect makeup, and no awful body hair like mine. So I’m kinda struggling today.

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gosh that skincare routine does sound super comfy! I definitely need to add that to my to-do list, thank you! <3

Amelia_ OP ,
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I'll settle for being a cute, comfy mess hehe~

I am super looking forward to corsetry though, but I am a bit worried about my tummy, I'm slowly starting to see the effects of extra exercise but I'd really appreciate any suggestions you might have to help there!

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*sets unrealistic expectations for myself cutely* tee hee :3

Amelia_ ,
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Plan an exercise regime, if you don't have one already! Of course every transition is a little different, but from what I've seen weight gain can be common.

It also has another benefit: as you become estrogenized fat gained will be distributed differently, so a good diet and exercise plan can help work off any fat in boy places ready to become the new, beautiful, feminine you! ❤️❤️

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All you need to start with is something that gets your heart rate up and gets you breathing hard for 30 - 40 mins per day!

I am fortunate enough to be in a position to buy an exercise bike and a rowing machine, so I alternate between the two, find a tv show with long episodes and watch one per day as I exercise.

how did you deal with internalised transphobia?

It's something I'm really struggling with, thanks to it it feels like I'm obsessed with the idea of 'passing', like whenever I see other trans women who don't pass it gives me a little burst of dread, thinking that it's impossible to pass and I'd never be able to. That horrible fear of looking "like a man in a dress" like...

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Something that helped me a little is that, if anything, these feelings are an exhibition of our sisterhood with all other women. Even as much as they wish they didn't, 99.9% of women regardless of gender at birth, wish they could change their looks in some way, wish they could remove that thing they're most insecure about. All we can do is the same that all other women do, find the version of ourselves that makes us the happiest.

But inside that there also has to be some realism. The ladies we envy, the models and movie stars and idols and influencers and who ever else, they are a statistically tiny portion of the population. There's a couple of billion women who will never, and could never, look like that and that's okay. We are probably one of them, and that's also okay.

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Do people still say blursed? If so, this is that.

Shaved my legs for the first time

So, I just had the realization a few days ago that i'm probably trans. I shaved my legs for the first time today and WOW! Physically it feels great, all smooth and soft, but mentally it just feels RIGHT. Like this is something i should have been doing forever. Its kind of overwhelming for such a small thing, but i just felt like...

Amelia_ ,
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Do you have an epilator you could recommend? Once every 4 weeks sounds like a dream...

Amelia_ OP ,
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Gosh now I regret forcing myself not to buy thigh highs or skirts or anything until I lose weight hehehe~

The comfy warm bath and shaving session does sound perrrrfect though, all the steam and soft girl smells (:

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Oh wowww, that does sound super pretty and satisfying, I definitely need lots more soft and lovely layers!

Thank you for contributing, everyone's unique brand of femininity is valued and appreciated ❤️

Amelia_ OP ,
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In this regard I am fortunate in that I am still very early in my transition, my girl voice is very bad and embarrassing, I can’t really present feminine yet, I still have a very long way to go. So it’s uncomfy to pretend nothing is going on, but it’s not gonna really hurt me.

I don’t think I’ll be visiting them again after this time though.

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Personally I bought an IPL device. Attempted to use it all over but that wasn’t so successful, but it’s still good for the face, and taking the money saved to help with laser on my chest and back.

Since we’re gonna be shaving anyway you’re always in the perfect state to use IPL, pretty easy to fit in to a routine and has a bigger effect the longer you use it, and it’ll combine with HRT once you start.

Amelia_ OP ,
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Yeah, I started with TransVoiceLessons too. Her beginner’s video on weight vs pitch helped a lot.

Amelia_ OP ,
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Gosh yes, I'm having lots of problems with resonance, I can't stop sounding hollow :(

I still can't really tell if I'm doing something wrong or if I just need more practice! I guess I'll just practice until the new year and then maybe look for a clinician!

Thank you very much, this was super helpful <3

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